I’m Harold Cates
Personal Life Coach
What’s Missing in Your Life Right Now?
Personal Life Coaching
We are living in Crazy Times. The world we once knew is in constant change. Ways we once used to cope, no longer work.
So, what can we do? We have several choices. We can just give up…or just keep muddling along…or we can find someone who can help us see ways to change that will make our lives fulfilling and fun.
If you are tired of not getting what you want out of life, whether it’s the right relationship, the right job, the income you want or just peace of mind, read on.
What Is Life Coaching?
A personal approach to helping you get what you want out of life.
Who is Coaching For?
Anyone that is willing to take a hard look at what’s working and what’s not working in their life. And is willing to commit to making the changes necessary to get what they want. Remembering that anything on the outside can be changed, by changing the inside. Dreams can be realized by working with a good Coach.
What's in for me? How will this solve my problems?
Would you agree that how you are handling your life challenges is not working? Do you believe that another approach could bring you the answers you seek?
What goals can coaching help me with?
Life Coaching is ideal for offering you clarity around your life and your sense of self. It can answer questions around, why is my life the way it is? And how do I make a difference in my life?
What does a coaching session look like?
All life coaching sessions are held virtually via Zoom. During our introduction call, we will discuss the most productive options that would work for you. Coaching sessions are all about you and what you want to accomplish in your life.
What is the time frame?
Everyone and every life is different. There are many factors that determine how long you may need. As a benchmark, Harold recommends an initial twelve-week program with one session a week.
How do I start?
The first step is to book a 30-minute consultation call with Harold. The purpose of the call is for him to get to know you and assess whether or not there’s a good client-coach match.
My Story
My story starts out with me being an abused child that survived by becoming numb to everything. I also became an overachiever who was in search of love. The combination of being numb and an over achiever can indeed be great traits for achieving success in the business world. I started working at 11 years old and had my first company at 16. I set my goals to be the best in everything I did. And as the saying goes, you can achieve anything you make up your mind to do. Since I was numb, it was easy to program myself to not feel the negative baggage I was carrying around with me.
After graduating college, I went to work at IBM, and became one of their top marketing reps in the US. Later, I went into real estate and built a very successful company of my own. Once I made my first million, I built my dream home with all the amenities you can imagine; a swimming pool – to a tennis court and everything in between. I had a beautiful wife, the “right” top-of –the-line vehicles, memberships in the “right” country clubs, and I joined the Board of Directors for numerous organizations.
I was living the American Dream; except of course, I was so very miserable inside.
On one fateful day in 1990, I found myself standing on the deck of my swimming pool, looking out over my tennis court and manicured lawn, with a serious decision to make. Whether to shoot myself or take drugs to end the pain. Fortunately, thank God, I was able to step back and decide to set a goal of changing my life. I went into therapy and in an effort to fix myself, I found a 200-acre former children’s camp that was for sale. I bought it with the intention of building a Wellness Retreat where I could help others like myself, and in the process, help myself at the same time.
As was my overachieving nature I put together an amazing retreat package and got the support I needed, including a financial backer for the $5 million to start. At this time, I was running my real estate company with 4 offices and getting ready to build this amazing Retreat.
Two years into developing the Retreat package, reality set in and after a lot of praying and meditation, I sold my company, stopped the development of the Wellness Retreat, sold my dream home, got divorced and ended up moving into the dining hall of my Retreat. Over the 7 years I owned this Retreat; I attended a number of amazing transformational workshops and through this personal growth journey, became aware of the underlying abuse that had been driving me all my life.
During a 10-day workshop at another Wellness Center, I opened my heart and for the first time in my life, I started feeling. Opening my heart allowed me to start releasing the pent up anger I was carrying around with me, toward my abusers. I was able to start forgiving them and myself, which allowed me to heal. This was the biggest breakthrough I have ever had in my life! It took me another 2 years to learn how to have safe boundaries so I could return to the outside world. I sold my Retreat and created a new empowering life that I was learning how to live. The 7 years I spent at my Retreat actually saved my life.
For the next 20 years, I dedicated my time and energy to running several non-profit organizations that were devoted to making a difference in the world. During this time, I mentored and coached men and women that wanted to change their lives for the better. The most valuable lesson I learned from the people I coached, was how to listen to people share their issues without being triggered by my own stuff.
Being a servant leader with an open heart has allowed me to become even more aware of dealing with adversity and the array of issues that many leaders face.
Now at 82, I am following my passion to share what I have learned over these 30 years. Not many people can take 7 years off on Retreat to find themselves. So I am sharing the lessons I have learned over a lifetime of searching, growing and living through various experiences. Using these many lessons, I have become a Certified Virtual Coach.
My mission is: I help successful people reach goals that they have only dreamed of achieving.
Testimonials
“Harold Cates has an uncanny ability to get right to the heart of whatever challenge you’re up against and lead you to discover your own best solution”. Ken Jones
“Harold, thank you for believing in me and helping me see and work through my blocks. Your gentle and determined nature, and belief in me, has shown me the light of day and helped me move forward in ways I didn’t realize were available to me”. Jade J Mahon
“I would not be where I am with my business without Harold. He has so much knowledge and wisdom to share. I leave every call feeling more motivated, inspired and ready to take the next action in my business”. Jacki Mundrawala
You Can Be And Have Anything You Want…It’s Up To You.
There’s an old saying…
If you could have done it alone, you would have already done it.
So, to achieve what you want, you will need to get help.
It’s hard to admit it and asking for help is sometimes hard. I know that I have a part of me that thinks I can do anything, if I can just focus my energy.
But when I think back on my past successes, I have always had help. This help came in a number of ways. I’ve had help from a friend, a mentor, a coach or a talented staff.
So, if you really want to achieve that missing piece, you have come to the right place. Helping you see through the clouds to a clear path and to the necessary steps to reach your goal is what we are all about.
The first step is to schedule a free conference call to see if we are a good match. My coaching calls are very interactive and require your attention as well as participation in taking the right kind of action.
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